While we accept that cats don’t want to be petted by everyone and have to be approached respectfully, it’s easy to forget that dogs don’t want attention from everyone, either — probably because they’re generally so people-oriented. But they, too, have their moods and preferences. After all, even if you’re friendly and outgoing, it doesn’t mean you want to shake hands with everyone you pass on the street, right?
With that in mind, it’s important not just to ask the person walking the dog if it’s okay to pet her, but also the dog herself. How?
1. Check to see if the dog has shifted her weight away, has started to lick her lips, or is looking from side to side rather than forward. Those are clear signs that she does not want to interact, even if her human companion gives you permission. Respect her space and move on.
2. If the dog does seem relaxed, stand next to her and drop your hand down beside her — not out to her. If she does not come forward at all, let it go; she has a right to decline being petted. If she does inch a bit toward you, give a scratch and a stroke. Then stop.
3. If the dog shows she wants more, maybe by nosing you with her muzzle, keep going. If she doesn’t, call it a day. It’s okay. You’ll come across another dog who feels like getting some attention from you.
